Why Couples Fight: The Hidden Role of Stress on Relationships
In couples therapy I see four main reasons couples argue:- There are underlying resentments which are unresolved. There is external stress on one or both people in the relationship. There are values differences (you’ll find a recent blog on this issue here) …
How do you stay connected as a couple after your baby arrives?
In this blog I am showcasing one particular practitioner at the Sydney Couple and Family Specialists. Denny Maclaine. Denny has over 25 years helping couples manage the change in life and relationships that occur when a baby arrives. She has supported couples …
Q. What causes high conflict in a relationship? A. It’s mostly about differences in values.
There are many different reasons high conflict can be present in a relationship. The one I want to discuss here today is very common with couples who come to Sydney Couple and Family Specialists looking for marriage or couples counselling. It’s a …
How do I get my child to open up to me?
Raising resilient children who can tackle their own challenges is something we all strive for as parents. But how do we also ensure they seek our advice if they encounter a difficult problem or they feel anxious about something? Or, in their …
How do I talk to my teen about self-harm and why it is important to get the right help.
Parents are rightly shocked when they discover their child is self-harming. A common response is to avoid the topic because they don’t know what to say, or to take drastic action to try to stop the behaviour immediately. Sometimes self-harm is dismissed …
“My Husband or Wife is always angry” – How to Deal with an Angry Partner
In this article I discuss anger that shows up in a relationship. Typically, there is a complaint by one partner that the other partner is angry all of the time. The ‘anger’ we are talking about here is not violence or abuse …
How Post-Separation Counselling Can Help you Separate well if you have Kids
Sometimes during couples counselling, the couple decide to separate. If the couple have children, they commonly ask the Couples Counsellor about ongoing counselling to help them separate well. This is called Post-Separation Counselling. It is different to mediation which is a dispute-resolution process …
I’m not attracted to my partner any more. My partner doesn’t seem to be attracted to me. What can we do?
If you are reading this blog you may be in a relationship which has gone a bit stale. You love your partner and perhaps enjoy the family you have created with them. But the sex is non-existent and worse still you are …
Should Step-Parents Discipline?
One of the hardest parenting gigs is being a step-parent. They often find themselves expected to do parenting chores such as running kids to soccer or enduring kid-friendly dinners. They may be expected to put up with attitude from teenagers and share the …
Relationship Communication Skills – The effects of responding to your partner
The most effective way to reduce the frequency of conflict in your relationship is to build goodwill and positive sentiment; put simply, by having a good friendship. It’s very likely you have had a good friendship somewhere in the course of …