I’m not attracted to my partner any more. My partner doesn’t seem to be attracted to me. What can we do?
If you are reading this blog you may be in a relationship which has gone a bit stale. You love your partner and perhaps enjoy the family you have created with them. But the sex is non-existent and worse still you are …
My family doesn’t believe I was sexually abused
There are many different types of sexual abuse and assault. But every single act of sexual abuse or assault leaves an imprint on the brain, and every survivor is left with ongoing trauma. There is further trauma when the abuse has occurred …
Why did my partner cheat on me?
At the Sydney Couple and Family Specialists we see many couples for marriage and relationship counselling – and probably one of the most common (and painful) presentations is when one person has betrayed the other. There are lots of different ways to …
When is controlling behaviour from a partner toxic or abusive?
Many people can appear controlling in a relationship and I certainly see many examples of it in couples counselling. Often controlling behaviours show up because the person is feeling insecure or highly anxious. Anxiety fuels controlling behaviours in relationships. But there …
My relationship is boring – here are some antidotes.
For some people, the worst thing they can think of is being in a boring relationship. Boredom is associated with feelings of weariness, tediousness or impatience. It usually involves an absence of interest, desire or passion, and can be quite disheartening. …
Couples Counselling Radio Interview with Alex Ryder
Alex Ryder was interviewed by Tony Kallegeros on The Daily radio show. He discusses why couples go to couple’s therapy, how he deals with some of the trickier situations that arise in therapy, and of course, what makes a perfect relationship. You can …
How do I know if I’m ready to commit to my partner?
For most couples, commitment means a lifelong pledge to one person. That might be by way of marriage, a commitment ceremony or the decision to have children. Making a decision of that magnitude is naturally quite daunting. How do you know you’re …
Can a relationship survive an affair?
An affair is a betrayal. A violation of the original agreement between two people who have committed to each other to the exclusion of all others. It is often an unexpected shock. A deep relationship injury. A significant trauma to the person …
How to save your long term relationship
Regain the connection with your partner. Do you worry that you may never get it back or wonder where your relationship is going? Do you feel lonely in your relationship or have you started seeking outside connections with friends or even another …