“My Husband or Wife is always angry” – How to Deal with an Angry Partner
In this article I discuss anger that shows up in a relationship. Typically, there is a complaint by one partner that the other partner is angry all of the time. The ‘anger’ we are talking about here is not violence or abuse …
How Post-Separation Counselling Can Help you Separate well if you have Kids
Sometimes during couples counselling, the couple decide to separate. If the couple have children, they commonly ask the Couples Counsellor about ongoing counselling to help them separate well. This is called Post-Separation Counselling. It is different to mediation which is a dispute-resolution process …
What do I do if my child/teen doesn’t like my new partner?
How’s it going with your children and your new partner? Do your children like and respect him or her? Does your new partner get along with your children? Are there fights, resentments, complaints? Or do you feel caught between the people you love …
I’m not attracted to my partner any more. My partner doesn’t seem to be attracted to me. What can we do?
If you are reading this blog you may be in a relationship which has gone a bit stale. You love your partner and perhaps enjoy the family you have created with them. But the sex is non-existent and worse still you are …
Relationship Communication Skills – The effects of responding to your partner
The most effective way to reduce the frequency of conflict in your relationship is to build goodwill and positive sentiment; put simply, by having a good friendship. It’s very likely you have had a good friendship somewhere in the course of …
Are you feeling angry and frustrated with your partner?
Couples often come for marriage counselling saying that they’re angry and frustrated with their partner. This can quickly lead to resentment and the relationship can be in trouble. What I see in couples counselling is that commonly the anger and frustration …
Are you receiving the silent treatment? Stonewalling in relationships
Whenever you raise a problem in the relationship, your partner shuts down, gives you the silent treatment and won’t talk about it. Or the second that conflict arises, they check out. It is a dangerous scenario in a relationship when your partner …
My partner is constantly criticising me. What do I do?
If you are being regularly criticised in your relationship you might be feeling hurt, demoralised and downtrodden. In fact, it is very likely you’ve distanced yourself from your partner by stonewalling, or being less loving towards them in order to help …
You want a baby, but your partner doesn’t…
If life was well planned, you and your partner would be on the same page in terms of whether you will have children or not, how many you will have and exactly when. But life isn’t. We don’t plan who we are …
How to have a conversation when your partner won’t listen to you
Do conversations about your day turn into arguments or leave you feeling isolated? A common complaint I hear when people arrive for couples counselling is that one or both parties feel lonely. There can be many reasons for this, but a common …