Relationship trauma counseling
Many couples come to see us for things like communication issues or feeling disconnected. However, we have a lot of couples who seek couples therapy because there has been a trauma in their relationship history. What constitutes trauma in a couple’s relationship? …
How to improve intimacy in your relationship
Couples I see in couples counselling often state “improving intimacy” as a goal for their work with me. There are different types of intimacy and it’s not all just about sex and touching. Intimacy is also about communication and time together. There …
How to stop bickering with your partner
Bickering, niggling ongoing arguments between a couple can really drag a relationship down and lead to general unhappiness for everyone concerned – the couple and any children who are often witness to it. Bickering can also impact extended family and friends if …
How to prioritise your relationship
When I am in relationship counselling with a couple and one or both partners say they feel they’re last on their partner’s list, I know it’s time to talk about priorities. Sometimes there is emotional hurt involved and reasons the couple …
Feeling last on your partner’s list? The most effective ways to prioritise love in your relationship.
The endless demands of modern life often pull us into spending more time than we want on unimportant things and leave us with little time for the things that matter most. These demands are often so convincing that we sometime forget …
60 seconds to transform your evening AND your relationship
After a day apart, the first 60 seconds you spend with someone you know is in many ways the most important moments for the life and vitality of the relationship. This can transform your evening and your relationship. In these fleeting …
The Damaging Effects of Stress on Your Relationship – 11 Antidotes
Stress is one of the most common ingredients in a relationship when couples come to see me for couples counselling. If you missed the article I wrote on recognising stress in your relationship and the damage it can do, you can …
Stress Damaging Your Relationship? – 10 Signs this is Happening
Despite the multitude of reasons a couple might come to see me for relationship counselling, a common trend is that one or both of the partners are feeling stressed. Indeed, 75% of Australians consider themselves to be relatively stressed[1]. Being located in …
How to re-build Respect in your Relationship
Couples in relationship counselling often ask me what the most important ingredient of a relationship is, thinking the answer will be something to do with love. In fact, many couples base their wedding vows on notions of love, believing that will …
How to stop smart phones damaging your relationship
“My Partner is Always on their Phone” A complaint about mobile phone use may not be the first thing a couple raise when they come to see me for couples counselling, however, phone dependency, phone intrusions and prioritising phone use are strongly …