How to share mental load in a relationship
If it feels like you carry an unequal portion of the domestic duties and mental load around them, then you’re not alone. Inequality between genders was a key finding of the Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia Survey – 2019 – with …
How do I get my child to open up to me?
Raising resilient children who can tackle their own challenges is something we all strive for as parents. But how do we also ensure they seek our advice if they encounter a difficult problem or they feel anxious about something? Or, in their …
How to stop bickering with your partner
Bickering, niggling ongoing arguments between a couple can really drag a relationship down and lead to general unhappiness for everyone concerned – the couple and any children who are often witness to it. Bickering can also impact extended family and friends if …
Why do I get so defensive?
How to recognise and reverse the harmful effects of defensiveness in your communication. You might have read an article I wrote recently on how to help your partner when they are being defensive. Defensiveness is a human trait that shows up in …
Feeling last on your partner’s list? The most effective ways to prioritise love in your relationship.
The endless demands of modern life often pull us into spending more time than we want on unimportant things and leave us with little time for the things that matter most. These demands are often so convincing that we sometime forget …
60 seconds to transform your evening AND your relationship
After a day apart, the first 60 seconds you spend with someone you know is in many ways the most important moments for the life and vitality of the relationship. This can transform your evening and your relationship. In these fleeting …
The Damaging Effects of Stress on Your Relationship – 11 Antidotes
Stress is one of the most common ingredients in a relationship when couples come to see me for couples counselling. If you missed the article I wrote on recognising stress in your relationship and the damage it can do, you can …
Stress Damaging Your Relationship? – 10 Signs this is Happening
Despite the multitude of reasons a couple might come to see me for relationship counselling, a common trend is that one or both of the partners are feeling stressed. Indeed, 75% of Australians consider themselves to be relatively stressed[1]. Being located in …
How to re-build Respect in your Relationship
Couples in relationship counselling often ask me what the most important ingredient of a relationship is, thinking the answer will be something to do with love. In fact, many couples base their wedding vows on notions of love, believing that will …
How can we stay connected after children come along?
They walk in the door. He is red faced. She is anxious. …